bruceinithace-somehow, I feel better about my life hearing you articulate your perspective. I am your age, never conventionally attractive but with a certain quirky appeal when I was young. Always a bit overweight, but certain gay men made me think I might have been hugely obese. It was very frustrating.
re 'the service industry:" yes, there's a lot of class snobbery among gay men too. I work at one of the most intense, intellectually rigorous institutes of higher learning in the galaxy in a very competitive urban metropolis, but when people hear that I work in administrative support, the interest level decreases rather rapidly.
I am so glad I have theatre to inspire and amuse me-thank you so much for sharing,