Sometimes as fans, we take these things a lot more seriously than the actors involved take them. I was actually told by 2 of the adult male nominees (after the nominations but before the vote) that the Billys were going to win, the decision to do a group nomination was done because they were kids, and that's just the way things are. Neither seemed bitter, both said something like, Hey, there will be other years and other opportunities.
I agree. The Tony administration made a mistake with the group nomination. They should have given the 3 Billys (and probably the 2 Davids) a special Tony and removed them from competition.