| re: Various alternatives to being somewhere between 40 and death (with an emphasis on the latter) to cross-mix Mame and Lola | |
| Posted by: JereNYC (JereNYC@aol.com) 12:55 pm EDT 07/24/20 | |
| In reply to: re: Various alternatives to being somewhere between 40 and death (with an emphasis on the latter) to cross-mix Mame and Lola - Singapore/Fling 06:22 pm EDT 07/21/20 | |
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| I have an acquaintance like that (I'm not saying this person is the poster, but just that the poster isn't the only one) who spends thousands of dollars a year on theatre tickets all over the city and who doesn't seem to get one minute of enjoyment out of any of it. He too works a corporate job and going to the theatre seems to be his primary activity during his non-working hours. I've never heard him talk about any production anywhere without a litany of complaints. If you pointed that out to him, he would deny hating everything, despite any evidence to the contrary. I've come to realize what he loves is the COMPLAINING. It gives him some kind of thrill or makes him feel smart. The particular object of the complaints is not important. For whatever reason, he latched on to the theatre as his "thing" and he will go until the day he dies, even though he doesn't really like it. And if he can show off some "insider" knowledge as part of his complaints, he's happy to do that. Maybe he thinks it sounds impressive or secures him a moment as the center of attention. If he was a sports person, he'd be complaining about the teams or the players or the management. Ordinarily, I'm all for people doing their thing and responding to art in any way that pleases them, but this person is so negative and so loud about it, that I find I have to severely limit the time I spend in his presence. I know him through a good friend that I cherish, but I have declined invitations from her when I found out that he would also be present. And I am not the only one in her circle that does this. So these folks exist. They're not trying to punk you and they're genuinely unaware, I think, of how their attitude affects others. Here, people are unafraid to take SummerTheater to task and I imagine that he/she ignores it all because they just don't perceive it the way others do. There's probably little self-awareness there. In real life, as with my acquaintance, I imagine that no one has ever taken this person to task for this behavior and prefer to ignore it because it's easier. And then limit their time in the person's presence. It's easier to do that than tell a person that they're a terrible human being who brings down every room they're in and no one can stand to be around them. But, unfortunately, having someone who cares enough to be that harsh is the only way a person like that will ever start to make the steps to change, assuming that they even want to change. |
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