I don't necessarily disagree, but for something to "rise to criminality" we have to have a legislature pass a law defining it and making it a crime. A law criminalizing "a clear and distinct pattern of abuse," without more, would be void for vagueness and thus a denial of due process. And even as a crime, as I said, their are gradations of heinousness. Sexual abuse>physical abuse>emotional abuse>verbal abuse, generally speaking. What we need are laws that very clearly set the boundaries.