Yes, this is all true, but it does not change the fact that the word is regarded as a slur. As a queer person who was raised as a man, I identify as a - insert slur for gay people here - but that does not mean anyone else can use that word. Imagine if there was a
- and I'm about to drop that slur right here, redacted but still visible, so fair warning -
Imagine if there was a "F----- Moth". Queer people can have a robust debate about how we identify and which words we want to use (and there are some folks on this board who bristle at the word queer, and that's their right), but you better not use that internal diversity as an excuse to use a word that members of our community have made clear is a slur.