This seems to be a very very antiquated view of things, and the references you're using to support it make that clear.
This is of course true for some friendships, but it is by no means a rule. As I wrote in my reply to the original post claiming this, this is very much not my experience.
Yes coupled friends often want/need coupled friends. But they like their single friends too. AND worth noting that single friends I think often phase out married friends, or let it fade, because they have way less in common after the friends are married more than a year or two, and especially if the couple has kids... they are looking to spend their free time with other single people, doing things single people can do (like out meeting other single people or couples who like being out). Just the need to pay for a babysitter to leave the house often means the single person only gets to hang out with the couple if they go to their home and spend time with the kid too or wait till they're asleep -- which is great but a limited experience sometimes. So it's not just the married couple "dropping" the single friend. But I see more justification for Bobby being in demand by the couples than not. |
